What food and drink should you serve at a funeral wake?

Keep it simple and accessible

The food at a wake should be easy to eat, accessible for all ages, and require minimal fuss. Finger food and light buffets are the most practical choice.

The traditional wake buffet

A traditional wake buffet typically includes finger sandwiches, sausage rolls, quiche, crisps, and a selection of cakes or traybakes. This format works well for any number of guests and suits all ages.

Afternoon tea

Afternoon tea, with sandwiches, scones, clotted cream and cakes, has become a popular and dignified choice for funeral receptions. It feels special without being overly formal, and most venues offer it as a set package at around £15–£25 per person.

Hot buffet options

For a longer reception, or when guests have travelled a significant distance, a hot buffet provides something more substantial. Dishes like soup with crusty bread, mini beef wellingtons or a carvery work well.

Drinks

A cash bar or a tab is standard at most wake venues. Tea and coffee should always be available throughout. In the UK, a wake is not a wake without a constant supply of tea, and venues that include it in the catering price always feel more generous.

If budget allows, a glass of wine, sherry or a soft drink offered on arrival is a thoughtful and traditional welcome. If you choose to run a hosted bar tab, ask the venue to set a cap of £150–£200, which is reasonable and prevents bill shock at the end of a long day.

Dietary requirements and allergens

Always ask the venue what they can provide for vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free guests with advance notice. In 2026, being allergen-aware is both a legal expectation and a social one. Most reputable venues handle this routinely given 48–72 hours notice.

📌 Boutique tip: Ask your venue if they can provide allergen cards next to each dish. It is a small touch that makes guests feel safe and cared for, particularly important during a day that is already emotionally demanding.